Four Steps to Dealing with Anger with a Person

Anger as an emotion can have it's uses. Anger can have an energizing purpose when it motivates you to act to make a positive change in your life. However, if the anger hangs on, it can be come toxic to you and start to bring about negative effects to your life and wellbeing.

Releasing that anger is important, not just for you but for the person you're angry with or at.

Here are 4 steps to letting go of your anger at others:

1. Allow yourself to feel the full intensity of your anger toward the person. . Take time to experience the feeling in your stomach, your jaw, your shoulders, your body, your muscles. Make a mental note the negative energy, then make a deliberate decision to release the anger for your own peace of mind and wellbeing.

2. Take time to realise that the person on probably did the best they could with the tools they have available. It is an unfortunate fact that some people's life coping or survival mechanisms are hurtful or destructive toward others. However, by realising that the person might lack the life-skills to deal with the matter more effectively, can help the betrayal or behavior seem less personally directed, and more about his or her deficiencies.

3. Imagine that the responsibility for punishing this person, is also being released. Visualize releasing the person you are angry with into the wider world.
4. Begin to look ahead to the possible benefits of your experience. Believe that you are truly who and where you are meant to be, right now, as a sum total of all your experiences.

So next time someone gets you down, remember these 4 steps, to help you get back on track quicker.